I Open at the Close: End of the Week Inspiring Quotes VIII

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The secret is that I am actually not in the states anymore… As promised, this wandering girl has gone on many an adventure and is currently finishing up a week of service slash international healthcare in the Dominican Republic. More on that later when I can transfer some pictures and share my story from Dejabon to Santo Domingo.

But for now… For now let´s reflect a bit on travel and why you know you kind of need it in your life.

Travel in undergrad, study abroad or save money and travel after you graduate… Travel as a young twenty something, travel as an adult, travel in a caravan of old farts if you want, or travel with kids … just get out there!

After all, as JRR Tolkien once said: Not all those who wander are lost :3

NOTE: These quotes are NOT Hogwarts House themed, but may they inspire you anyway!

AND SORRY NO PICTURES THIS WEEK

  1. “The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.”–– St. Augustine
  2. “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.” –– Mark Twain
  3. “One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” –– Henry Miller
  4. “Do we really want to travel in hermetically sealed popemobiles through the rural provinces of France, Mexico and the Far East, eating only in Hard Rock Cafes and McDonalds? Or do we want to eat without fear, tearing into the local stew, the humble taqueria’s mystery meat, the sincerely offered gift of a lightly grilled fish head? I know what I want. I want it all. I want to try everything once.” –– Anthony Bourdain
  5. “Every one of a hundred thousand cities around the world had its own special sunset and it was worth going there, just once, if only to see the sun go down.”–– Ryu Murakami
  6. “He who does not travel does not know the value of men.”––Moorish proverb
  7. “Traveling is a brutality. It forces you to trust strangers and to lose sight of all that familiar comfort of home and friends. You are constantly off balance. Nothing is yours except the essential things – air, sleep, dreams, the sea, the sky – all things tending towards the eternal or what we imagine of it.” ––Cesare Pavese
  8. “When we get out of the glass bottle of our ego and when we escape like the squirrels in the cage of our personality and get into the forest again, we shall shiver with cold and fright. But things will happen to us so that we don’t know ourselves. Cool, unlying life will rush in.” ––DH Lawrence
  9. “Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by.” ––Robert Frost
  10. “Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.” ––Maya Angelou

And just because I love, love, love this quote by Mark Twain here he is one more time

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ––Mark Twain

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On dealing with rejection (More self-reflection actually)

Did you know that every year seems shorter because you’re growing older? Think about it. One year seems forever to a 5 year old because that’s just 1/5 of their life. Now image that you’re 22 — hey that’s 1/22 of your life gone by, see how tiny that is in comparison?

Now all of that was just an elaborate segue into today’s topic: Rejection! Because let’s face it, life is too short to be hung up over it, unfortunately life is long enough to face a lot of it. Especially if you’ve been like me in the last few weeks and have looked like this trying to find a fall internship/job:

Accurate depiction of me

Contrary to what Time magazine likes to think about our generation — I’ve been keysmashing my way through websites looking for things to apply to, then readily applying to said things, and then playing the waiting game of: “Will they care enough to send me a rejection email?” Fortunately for me, I have received a few polite rejections (Easing one anxiety) but more silence from other avenues of possible employment (Oh no more anxiety!) — it creates an unfortunate loop but…

… It’s something I’m used to, as well. And something that I have come to expect as I diligently keep a look-out on all the things I can apply for.

Because let’s face it: We all have our fair share of disappointment, and unfortunately that’s just how it works. Unless you are incredibly lucky and fortunate, things in life don’t always pan out the way you expect or want them to.

You might shrug your shoulders, or you might want to rip your diploma in half because it hasn’t gotten you anything, it seems, or you might want to snuggle up with a tub of ice-cream and watch Netflix all day.

And that’s fine. We all cope with rejection differently; honestly do what you gotta do to make you feel better.

Of course, in the wake of such unfortunate outcomes the expected “It’s all okay/Things will work out/It might be better this way anyway” comments from friends and family aren’t that comforting to the newly rejected. Shut out of a job that would have been perfect? Or maybe that school you’ve always dreamed of going to? Yeah, no, being told that “It will all work out” just doesn’t cut it sometimes. Thanks I’m gonna go and chuck back some more raw cookie dough. (How about I put that on my resume)

And I think this all stems from the thought process that the reason you were rejected was because you do not deserve a job.

That tends to be the first response: I failed to appeal to these people therefore I am completely unwanted — yep, that seems to be the common train of thought when there’s no response for a week or two.

Another accurate depiction of me

Or well, it’s my train of thought — and I do suspect I’m not alone in having moments of confidence (Aw yeah look at all that experience I racked up, look at all the skills I have) suddenly shut down because of lacking results (Wait what it wasn’t enough?!).

Which is all fine and good, you know, but remember? Up top? Life is too short to spend hung up over one failure — for some of us, we just have to keep swimming through it. 

For some of us it won’t be an easy matter of what we want and what we need falling from the sky — life doesn’t play fair, you know.

And that’s fine.

One door closes, you try another. And keep trying.

It might help to find a support group, or a cheering squad of friends/family that have got your back – to listen to you vent when it doesn’t work out. And if not — well, there’s someone out there on the Internet cheering you on from her own corner; I know the feeling all too well right now.

But it’s not the end — this is, after all, a teeny tiny portion of your life. There are always doors — maybe not the ones you thought would work, but they are there and you can try, that’s all anyone can really ask for.

So  keep trying after there’s a door slammed in your face; brush yourself off with a tip of your hat, maybe go over your resume again and ask for advice on that cover letter of yours, and try again.

Even if it takes fifteen, or fifty, applications and an interview or two — keep at it.

Because you’re inching over to 23 soon and sure, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you, but you can save yourself some precious minutes when you come to accept that hey — you were rejected, but you’re still a living, breathing human with a spark in your eye and the determination to do something.

And the road is long, and there are many doors to try left.

So — let’s continue on and see where the path may lead!

Most accurate depiction of me

Internship/Volunteer Opportunity: OneReasonRecordings lookin’ for Graphic Designers, PR, and Campus Reps!

Hey guys the Wandering Girl here with an exciting volunteer/internship/just-a-really-cool-thing-to-do opportunity for all you creative types who want to promote charitable causes! Now a (long) while back we debated the use of an unpaid or a paid internship, but here’s the thing: If it’s an opportunity that speaks to you, even if it’s unpaid, I say go for it, and pour your heart and soul and do something that matters — to you!

And from the looks of it, working with OneReasonRecordings is definitely worth it, especially if you’re looking to make a difference and want to do so in a creative venue. Anyway now that I got that ramble out of the way (And I do this because the unpaid-paid thing is still a major debate, don’t want to step on toes here) — on to the actual details of this opportunity to join in!

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OneReasonRecordings brings together music and service to realize our vision of a better world. We empower independent artists by using their music to mobilize listeners all across the world to take action in support of organizations fighting for social justice, enriching the lives of everyone involved. We are committed to making a real, sustainable impact on communities in need and harnessing the passion of talented artists to change the world, one song at a time.

 People can enjoy music from all over the world regardless of origin or language. Music has an amazing ability to emotional, mentally and physically change people. So what would happen if you were literally able to change the world with music? What would happen if artists from around the world sent in tracks of their original music to build albums that would support charities around the world?

This is what we set out to do. OneReasonRecordings is a non-profit organization that raises funds for social justice issues around the world through music.

You can read more about their mission here!

Join Our Team

The OneReasonRecordings team is a group of individuals that just want to make a difference. Because we are a small group taking on a big job, we could always use some extra help.  Here we will list any position openings that we have because we could always use an extra hand or two – or three for that matter.

Please keep in mind that we are not able to offer financial compensation at this time and our entire staff is made up of volunteers. However, we guarantee that you will gain plenty of experience and have a hand in changing the world through music.

100% of all proceeds go to running OneReasonRecordings and meeting our yearly campaign goal. If you have a special skill that we’re looking for and feel called to help us, please consider joining our team!

Please send all completed applications to onereasonrecordings@gmail.com

Currently looking for Graphic Design and Public Relations staff as well as interested high school and college students to act as Campus Representatives

For more information on the application process please visit their website here for all their info!

Now, while I am an NYU alum I only just heard about this organization this morning — but I am confident enough to say that this does look like a very exciting opportunity for all you creatives out there =) So if anything give them a shot and, if this is something you’d love to devote your time to, I say go for it! 

And again here’s all the info you’ll need here.

From the shores of Honolulu

Hey all, the Wandering Girl here — and for those of you who haven’t been paying attention I’m on an extended two-week long trip to Hawaii. Hence all the lovely guest posts. And the lack of posts. *Cough*

I will say that the trip to Hawaii has certainly been a boon to my wanderlust my travel itch, with many activities and sights, and sounds, and what-not that are just amazing to experience. One of the first things I hope to share with you is just this ocean-front view of the infamous Waikiki Beach that has been my home for a few nights — and due to a case of jet-lag and just my joy to be here, I’ve been spending many a relaxing early morning and evening just sitting out here and enjoying the view.

I’ve also got a copy of Lady Chatterly’s Lover tucked at my side (oooh) to satisfy the bookworm — but I daresay that Chatterly’s poetics about sex and love affairs really can’t compare to the power of the ocean.

I’m planning on sharing a few of my adventures here in Hawaii but for now enjoy the view =)

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On taking a gap year, being a twenty something, and plans (or lack thereof)

Those Who Wander Lost is a blog-site dedicated to the Class of 2013 but with enough room for guest contributors to share their pearls of wisdom, advice, rants, worries, and stories about college life and beyond. Posted here with permission by the author, one of my dearest friends from highschool–basically I’ve known this girl for about eight years now can you believe that–my lovely marine biologist senpai: Emily. Emily has got an amazing year ahead of her–but I won’t steal her thunder as she goes on to explain what it means to take a “gap year” (Currently something I’m suffering through, I mean *Gulp*)

To start off, welcome, all you new grads, to the real world! Wait a minute, that’s not right. Let’s try again!

Welcome, all you new grads, to the hellish limbo of officially being a “twenty-something!”

It’s really not that bad! Well, depending on what you have decided to do with your life post-graduation. I, for one, do not have a single friend that I graduated with that has begun their professional career. Grad school? Yeah, a bunch! Life-affirming service projects to underprivileged citizens of the world? Mmmhmm, a few! Returned to their parents’ homes to take menial jobs for which they are highly overqualified in order to get by? Check. I happen to fall into the latter category, partially of my own volition. And hey, it wasn’t so bad! But let me tell you why this possibility of familiarity and comfort in a “gap year(s)” should scare you. I’ll start at the beginning of my story.

Bright-eyed and ready to save every creature that has ever traversed the deep blue sea, I graduated with my BSc in marine science. I graduated with honors and with a slew of under-grad research under my belt, and with these qualifications I figured I would have a good shot at making my post-graduate plans fall right into place. Let’s outline:

1. Summer: field job
2. Fall: field/research job with some state agency in an exotic place (Alaska? Hawaii? California!?)
3. Winter: home! (snow, The Hobbit, copious amounds of free food, aww yis.)
4. Spring : travel! see the world!
5. Summer round 2: field job again!
6. Fall round 2: move to New Zealand and travel!
7. Winter round 2: start grad school in New Zealand!
8. The rest of my life: be happy and fulfilled!!!

Well, I achieved the first bullet point (for half the summer), but not much after that. I spent 2 months looking for lab or field tech jobs without a single useful lead, so I gave up. See, I have this constant inner battle between wanderlust and homesickness. I love to travel, but I love to be home as well. Having been away for four years at various distances around the world, I was more than okay with the cosmos obviously telling me to take some time at home to decompress. I liked being home, I missed being home, so I decided to stick it out in my old abode for however long I needed to. I wanted to hang out with my high-school friends, wanted to do the stuff I used to do, wanted to drive down the same streets and see the same people I was so familiar with. I wanted to relish it, to relish the comfort of familiarity. What I didn’t plan on was how to manage the fact that things change.

“Stuck” (I wasn’t really stuck, I could have pretty much gone anywhere and done anything if I had enough gumption) at home, I took a part-time job that let me “apply to grad school” (quotations because, really, proactivity is not my strong point). It started out fine and dandy, was easy and comfortable, but it slowly turned to soul-sucking. My friends weren’t even around to occupy me when I wasn’t working; funny how other peoples’ lives don’t actually depend at all on yours! As I kept working I kept realizing that I needed to go back to school if jobs (and social circles) like this were going to be my future otherwise, but I was banking on the fact that I would get that Fulbright Award and jet off to study fish in New Zealand forever. Big surprise, I didn’t! Here is where my advice on contingency plans come in: have a better one than I did. I scrambled trying to find graduate programs I was interested in, and, more importantly, ones that had room/money for me. I did this while checking off bullet #4: “traveling,” aka living comfortably and innocuously in my friend’s house in Mexico for two months. I fell into the same trap as I did at home; I was “comfortable.” I didn’t do anything too risky, and therefore I didn’t do anything too exciting. I got back to the United States and felt pretty unfulfilled, the sense of which was compounded by lack of work at my old job and not getting what I wanted out of my grad school search. It was a monotonous existence, at home by myself for days on end, and I was lost and depressed for months. The tide only broke when the prospect of graduate school was on the horizon. Not graduate school as I had hoped; not in New Zealand, or even on the West Coast, not studying what I thought I would study, and not even involving fieldwork, my real passion in research. But it was something, so I took it and ran.

My “gap year” is almost over. Did I hate it? No! I honestly loved being home and being a semi-lazy bum for a few months. But the novelty wears off, and being comfortable does not provide good stories about how awesome and fulfilling an entire year of your life was. Am I looking forward to graduate school? A qualified yes. I am so comfortable at home again that the thought of leaving is saddening to me. But being a year out of school has given me enough perspective on what I could have been doing to make me not want to waste any more time. Would I tell someone to avoid taking a gap year, or to avoid doing what I did? Definitely not! But make sure you have an idea of what you want to do, start prepping early, and don’t let that idea get swept under the rug because it’s easier to stay stagnant than it is to swim against a current.

So I guess the advice I have for all you whippersnappers in your post-grad daze is this: plan. But don’t rely on your plans, because they will never work out. Don’t float on the breeze waiting for something to happen to you, but don’t put all of your eggs in one basket either. It’s a tricky balance to strike, but if you seek out opportunities you will be surprised at what else falls in your lap that is probably better than what you had originally “planned.” And most of all, DON’T GET TOO COMFORTABLE. This is where “twenty-somethings” are created; in their parents’ bosom and a room filled with pastel colors and high-school band posters. If you can, get a 9 to 5 job. Save up money from that and pay back some of your loans. If you can afford it (and you know what, even if you can’t), travel. See things you’ve never seen before, and do things you never thought you’d do. Don’t wait for anyone to do them with you; go out and explore the world on your own. Don’t plan it (too much). Don’t get comfortable in any one place. You can be comfortable in your plush, velvet-lined casket when you’re dead. For now, break free of your plans, kick comfort to the curb, and live at least a little bit while you still have the chance!

Project Ki Ken Tai: Simple Silhouettes

Probably one of the most important things I learned from the Pixar Masterclass a week ago? Character design; how to make an appealing but simple character with a recognizable silhouette that works.

Now I don’t expect anyone in this line-up to become a house-hold name, but in doing this exercise, I hope I can convey to you readers who happen to stumble upon this that these characters are different, and maybe in their shapes you can get a different feeling from the four of them.

Hopefully their personalities shine through the shapes — that was my goal anyhow haha

The most basic shape breakdown; hopefully the evoke a mood for the character as well

The most basic shape breakdown; hopefully they evoke a mood for the character as well

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Just messing with expressions

Just messing with expressions

Project Ki Ken Tai: Building Character

So now that we’ve got our basic shapes down… How do we build up an interesting character? Part of it is their design, part of it is their story; I am doing my best to make the most of my time here in Hawaii to write for myself… If I can even get the basics down and write maybe a few script samples here and there? Then I’ll have enough material to storyboard properly!

But I can’t help but also take the time to fall in love with the characters themselves…

There’s a lot I would love to say about these girls — and I hope before I have my thoughts properly summarized and condensed into a more easily digestible form that their designs can at least give a hint at who they are and how they function. I can drop a few names at least =)

Morgan our main heroine; we’re here to follow her ambitions and hopes for the future, especially her passion for kendo

Makoto — she and Morgan are interesting foils of each other; she’s also key to Morgan’s storyline and her main rival (ooh)

 

Ugh Lyra, I have so many things to say about this girl — let’s just say she’s Morgan’s best friend with a severe Napoleon complex and wants to overturn their school hierarchy by running for student council president (It’s a neat subplot)

Really quickly scribbled line-up — as you can see Morgan and Lyra are a little more creative with their uniform requirements; Makoto wears hers properly

Use of an Unpaid Internship — it’s all in Your Hands

The unpaid internship - why bother, you may ask -- I personally say if it's a good fit for you and you can afford to do it: do it

The unpaid internship – why bother, you may ask — I personally say if it’s a good fit for you and you can afford to do it: do it

So awhile back we debated about the merits of a paid versus unpaid internship and came to the conclusion that it all depends on what you can afford to do, and what exactly you are getting out of it.

Now the world is tough and the job market seems to hinge on how much “experience” you’ve clocked up via internships, and I am sad to say that in my line of interests–which ranged from museum studies and now to publishing–paid internships are real slim pickings. It also doesn’t help that I decided to “switch” so late in the game, I’m now a graduate with very little publishing/editing experience save for my portfolio of pop-culture blogging I’ve amassed over at MoarPowah.com. And I’ll be honest, I left one tiny job market to rush into another job market that is highly competitive and while I do long for a paid internship and eventually a job at some point in my career…

I am still happy with what I’ve got.

My current internship is an unpaid but heavily mentored program; I’m kind of thinking of it now as a free class. I’m working with women who have been in publishing for a long time and switched to digital publishing when the going looked good to try to invest in a website, and it worked out for them. With that in mind I have some industry savvy mentors teaching me the ropes of how to write, how to pitch, and how to get in touch with free-lancers, PR, and basically get over my own shyness and fear of public speaking to put myself out there and judge products for our publication.

Yes it’s unpaid, but at this point? I see it like a free class; and while I would love to slap down on my resume that it was a paid position, I also am grateful for the advice and help that my coworkers are giving me. I’m literally making network connections for this particular publication and learning how to foster relationships between the editors and their sources so … I find that it’s a good thing.

Plus, these women are tech savvy and I am learning a few tricks when it comes to managing social media and how to get the existence of our publication out there to the masses. It’s a lot of work, but I love it, and am grateful to have the experience for it.

Will I be satisfied with another unpaid internship after this one? Probably not, I need to make money to fund my own wanderings in life, yanno.

But, I think, for someone who kind of floundered about in their undergrad career, who didn’t actually build this all-important network connections or get all that “experience” needed to get a job immediately after college… I think this is a good start.

And I look forward to every day of my internship, every new opportunity that I can soak in and spin to my advantage when it comes to finding another position after this one. It’s two months away but I’m already looking at where else I can apply for fall, even an entry level job in the industry if I can (While also teasing out the idea of dropping everything altogether and running off to animation–yet another tiny industry haha)

But — again, the long and the short of it is: I’ve taken a position that many people would view unfavorably and it’s become one of my passions. I will do my best for this publication and I wish for it to succeed — even after I’ve gone.

And well, if that’s what I’ve made up of this unpaid internship, then I hope that’s the right idea; if anything at least I’ll take away something great from it that should (hopefully) help me along in life.